tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8792881561717482022024-03-05T00:09:21.871-06:00HazelnutLiveBecause I love Hazelnut Mochas! Stop by for coffee twice a week to discuss Politics, Veterans & Women's issues and Writing. Blogs are posted Monday and Thursday.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.comBlogger134125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-79412652361662516512013-02-22T10:12:00.000-06:002013-02-22T10:12:01.256-06:00To job or not to job?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
When Veterans leave the military, some have jobs, some don't. As a mom and a wife, do I need a job? <div>
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I already have a full-time one raising our 12-year-old daughter, who I am ashamed to admit was practically ignored for the first 10 years of her life while both her parents were on active duty. Since transitioning to the Reserve, I have had the most glorious affirmation of parenting. She needs her parents and I need her. Now I refuse to let anyone else raise her. Not school teachers. Not after-school care providers. Not family. <div>
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With that revelation, I also realize that there are lots of hours in the day when she doesn't need me. For instance, I like watching her play sports but I don't necessarily need to be shouting encouragement over the coach during basketball practice.</div>
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So that again begs the question. Do I need a job? And the answer is a resounding yes. What I have found is that no person can handle extremes for very long. Extreme work will leave your family lonely. Extreme parenting, and now they are smothered.</div>
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As a previous dual-income contributor, I also harbor guilt for not contributing to the income (although, during every freak-out moment I have about that, my husband assures me my contributions are just as valuable as his monetary ones). But working provides additional purpose to my day and interaction that an extrovert such as myself craves like oxygen. </div>
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So, I've decided that yes I need to work but I do not need the ten-hour-a-day with everything walking through the door labeled a crisis. Public Relations is a blast and I love it. It's what I know how to do and if I do say so, I do it pretty well. </div>
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The key now is to do PR and be a mom without falling right back over that slippery cliff of extremes. Decision made. Now how to go about it? </div>
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Well, that's for another day.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-65413343367187218652013-01-07T08:00:00.000-06:002013-01-07T08:00:13.722-06:00Relationship with your Muse
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Are you working on your relationship?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because, as any counselor will tell you, they
take work.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You may have met, experienced
love at first sight, and thought it would be sandy beaches and softly lapping
waves for the rest of eternity, but you’re in for a rude awakening.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Muse, she is one fickle significant
other.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"><br /></span></div>
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That honeymoon period when you were bursting with creative
energy and love for your story?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yes,
that will end.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you want to reach the
end of that story with minimal agony, you’re going to have to build a strong
relationship with Muse.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In case you
haven’t noticed, she can be quite the bitch.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>But then, you don’t always remember to take out the trash or write
“milk” on the list either, do you?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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Here are five tried and true relationship tips to take you
and Muse from first base to happily ever after:<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">1. Commit to spending
quality time together on a regular basis</b>:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>You have to set aside time for her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>She doesn’t want to share you with the household bills, kids, or report
for work.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">is </i>flexible, however.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And
maybe a little kinky.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She is fine if
your quality time together is in the shower.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Or right after you wake up in the morning.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"><br /></span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">2. Be playful and
surprise your partner</b>:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Maybe Muse doesn’t
want to hear you describe the setting for the tenth time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Maybe she would get really excited if you
would throw in something unexpected—and forget the flowers, chocolates, and
sappy movies.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Instead, offer her a
manticore, a long-lost twin, or even a corpse.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>That ought to dilate her pupils.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">3. Make it about more
than winning</b>:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you want to make
this work long-term, you have to look beyond the immediate finish line
tape.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You want that manuscript done, but
not at her expense.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Don’t approach the
relationship with the attitude that you’re always right.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She has a voice, an important one, and you
have to allow her to be heard if you want this partnership to last. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">4. Don’t assume you know
what your partner needs</b>:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You may
have been together a while now and gotten to know some of her quirks, but that
doesn’t make you a mind reader.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After
all, people change!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Let her tell you
what she needs and I guarantee you’ll be surprised.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Your protagonist has a secret ability?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The villain is blind?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The whole story really took place in an
alternate dimension?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You might think you
know…but you don’t.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You have to ask.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">5. Maintain outside
interests and relationships</b>:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Muse
may be the One, but she’s not the only one.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Don’t allow your relationship to be all-consuming.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Muse can’t meet all your needs and she’s not
the only one you can use to bounce ideas.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Family, friends, and fellow writers will offer you fresh
perspective.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Pursuing other passions
will prevent you from getting burnt out and help you return to Muse with a
glint in your eye.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Elizabeth Caraway
writes the Motivated Mama blog (</i><a href="http://www.motivated-mama.com/"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">http://www.motivated-mama.com</i></a><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">) and spends her time away from Muse running
great distances, corralling munchkins, and kissing her hot, nerdy husband.<o:p></o:p></i></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-8678378143477101622012-12-31T23:27:00.000-06:002013-01-02T23:27:28.828-06:00Back to DutySo I'm headed back on duty Saturday. Haven't worn boots in nearly six months and had to find a seamstress who would hem pants and sew on new rank in less than 48 hours. <br />
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But it's about time. I generally get restless and ready for action at the five-month mark. <br />
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Ten years of active duty and I never thought I would become a Reservist. After becoming a Reservist, I never thought I'd enjoy all the time. <br />
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The time off has given me so much more time for my family and other interests - like writing - and discovering what is truly important to me. I love my career and I love my family. There can be a balance and I'm determined to find it.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-79700428099004874192012-11-08T14:30:00.000-06:002013-01-02T23:31:40.015-06:00Time OffI'm taking some time off. Since I'm finally off crutches and walking in a boot, I'm going to travel. I'll be helping my brother move from Texas to South Carolina, which is awesome because I get to watch Alabama football with my sister and other extended family. <br />
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Later in the month, I'm headed to Birmingham for my grandfather's surprise 80th birthday party. We're gonna hold a quick promotion ceremony for me too. So, that will be a good time.<br />
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Finally, for Thanksgiving, the hubs is frying up a turkey. Our first meat meal since deciding to go plant-based back in April. Can't wait for leftover, cold turkey sandwiches!<br />
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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to All!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-74425741101973928882012-11-05T08:00:00.000-06:002012-11-05T08:00:08.146-06:00Stand Down for Veteran Homeless<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">One in Four Homeless are Veterans.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; line-height: 16px;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; line-height: 16px;">In November, Chicago, San Antonio, Binghamton and Fort Worth are holding Stand Downs. If you wish to be a part of a Stand Down, the contacts are below. If you wish to contribute to the VFW, please use the donate link to the left.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; line-height: 16px;">Nov 9 Chicago POC: Jeanne Douglas 708-383-3225</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; line-height: 16px;">Nov 9 San Antonio POC: Jerry Rangel 210-616-9915</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; line-height: 16px;">Nov 13 Binghamton, NY POC: Adam Ormsby 315-425-4428 </span></span><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-19696313034616648252012-11-01T16:58:00.001-05:002012-11-01T19:55:18.838-05:00NaNoWriMo & Veterans - Starts Today<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
National Novel Writing Month starts today -- one novel, 50000 words in 30 days. And one of my buddies has already written 2500 words! I've written 25. Yep, that's it. <a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=879288156171748202"></a>
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At the last minute, I decided to write a different novel than the one I planned -- this one is the second of a trilogy and is a romantic thriller dealing with Veteran homelessness and unemployment. But I'm determined. Vague plotline is done. Working on outline and will have first scene done before midnight. Then maybe I can knock out the second right after midnight. </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-33146609133424459632012-10-29T10:58:00.000-05:002012-10-29T10:58:28.982-05:00What's the best start to your day?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
How about with a herd of deer watching you frantically push buttons on your phone camera to take a shot at them?<div>
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As we rush out to the garage this morning, I go about my normal routine of running to the car, jerking open the door, shoving the key in the ignition, all the while yelling at Tornado (my sweet but glacially slow-moving 5th grader) to grab her crap and GET IN THE CAR before we're late!</div>
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Our suburbia neighborhood tends to see wildlife from time to time because we are so close to the Rocky Mountains. We have lots of rabbits and red fox, the occasional bear and once a year, I see deer. This morning was our annual visit by the herd, so close I could smell the earth on their hides.</div>
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The daddy deer paused in our driveway and eyeballed me, and as the head of the household paused, so did the rest of the family. Their deep brown eyes take in the whirlwind of morning rush. Their amusement obvious in their observation. Suddenly, time stopped and the sunrise warmed my face. Simultaneously, the brown noses of four deer shake their heads and then meander toward the backyard. Straight out of Northern Exposure.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-24871082718656243172012-10-25T13:14:00.003-05:002012-10-25T13:14:44.840-05:00GO Team<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Finding out about the death of a spouse or other loved one is agonizing. I know. I lost my father when he was very young. Already older and on my own with my own family, his loss, while agonizing, was not the loss of my way of life. But what if you are the dependent of a military service member? When you are told of his or her death, you've not only lost a member of your family, but you have now also lost the life you lead. <div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-69072567363860652532012-10-22T11:33:00.000-05:002012-10-29T10:20:28.489-05:00NaNoWriMo for VFW & Education<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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How about win a NY Times Bestseller or a Kindle?</h3>
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National Novel Writing Month is coming up -- 30 days to write a novel -- and I've decided:</div>
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For each dollar someone donates, I'll put his/her name in the hat and at the beginning of December, I'll draw 5 names -- each for a NY Times Bestseller. Then, the person who donates the most money will win the Kindle. <br />
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Money can be donated the entire month of November to keep me motivated to finish the novel. I'll donate the proceeds to the VFW and the Woodland Park Elementary School in Sparta, Tennessee. Why? </div>
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<b>EDUCATION</b> -- my parents live in a small, rural and frankly, economically poor county in Tennessee. While my husband and I were deployed to Afghanistan last year, our daughter stayed with them and attended Woodland Park Elementary School in Sparta, city population around 4800. <br />
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<b>VFW</b> -- is one of the leading organizations for advocacy of Veterans. The first VFW I ever went to was in Songtan City, South Korea, right outside the Osan Air Base gate. A man, easily a hundred years old smoking a stogie and driving a cadillac, signed me up. This man was a WWII and Korean War Veteran with a wonderful personality and a goal to show the benefits of VFW membership by active duty.<br />
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Recently the VFW is pushing for more benefits for Women Veterans -- rightfully so when women make up more than 20% of the force and have distinctively different medical needs from men. Additionally, they spotlight homeless and unemployed Veterans (with rates as high as 24%) as well advocating more resources for those who suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (1 in 5 military service members suffer from PTSD). <br />
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The last eleven years has torn apart individuals and families, and I have seen some ugly things. The price of war has been these selfless people and their wives, fathers, brothers, mothers, husbands and especially, children. Because we as a nation ask volunteers to go to war for us, I wholeheartedly support this incredible organization that volunteers for them. </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-32924556958905407092012-10-15T21:32:00.003-05:002012-10-15T21:32:59.975-05:00Making Your Characters Scream<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Don't you love a protagonist who isn't afraid to deliver a gut blow? To scream in a situation where you yourself may just walk away to avoid it? Readers love head-on and multidimensional characters ... if they are too perfect or too evil, they are not real. Think about your favorite character and your favorite villain. What makes you love him? What makes you hate her? What makes you sympathize with both of them?<div>
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Once you've answered all these questions and truly had that conversation with your character, have it with another character. Then have each of those characters at one point or another, or several points, exhibit the trait that is out of balance with his normal reaction or desire. Do it with all the main characters and your novel will be richer than it was before. Readers love a character who isn't afraid to say or do the thing we all think of later.</div>
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<i>(I'd like to attribute some of this to Donald Maas and <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Writing-Breakout-Novel-Donald-Maass/dp/158297182X" target="_blank">Writing the Breakout Novel</a> ... and thank him for helping me expand my characters.)</i></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-25083834319731530622012-10-11T14:44:00.000-05:002012-10-11T14:44:04.815-05:00Who is Jacqueline Marshall?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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A4: (*laughs) Sure. Well, I'm finishing up my prolonged exposure therapy, which I recommend to anyone who has been through an awful experience. Honestly, it has been a godsend because it forced me to look at what happened and through repetition, gave me freedom from it. So, talking to folks about prolonged exposure is one goal. </div>
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Another is to help my father with his senatorial campaign. As a retired Marine, Veterans hold a special place for him. Together I think we can bring a bold awareness to Veteran's issues and hopefully more support.</div>
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And lastly, as the new managing partner at Sweet Gypsy Books, I'd like to bring books into the lives of children. Veterans from my support group at the VA are helping me put together a children's authorfest. It's a way for me to marry two issues I'm passionate about -- reading and Veterans.</div>
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<b><i>(Jackie Marshall is the newest citizen of Sweet Gypsy Springs, Alabama, and we thank her for taking the time to interview with her author today).</i></b></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-49268331728390291372012-10-08T11:33:00.002-05:002012-10-09T14:26:30.513-05:00What's in a Name?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
This week I've been thinking a lot about names, particularly as a writer and developing a good brand. My platform is writing on Veteran's issues. I feel strongly about the need for folks to understand what Veterans face and how they can help. Since Romance and Spy Thrillers are my two favorite genre, I combine them and create a story to entertain and hopefully, educate.<br />
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Since the majority of my Facebook friends are people I served with, I went on and asked for name ideas. Tons came my way -- from the quirky and cool jargon to the unmentionable in polite company. Interestingly, most of the jargon I've found to have a negative connotation. Even when saying "outstanding" or "interesting," there is a certain amount of sarcasm accompanying it. But I'd rather the name have a more positive, kick ass vibe to them. My favorites after one day are below, let me know what you think:</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-37705844365519915412012-10-04T20:39:00.000-05:002012-10-09T14:27:06.094-05:00Denver Debate<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I love politics. Really. The West Wing? My favorite show for 7 years. For the record I am a registered Republican but have not always voted that way. But here's the thing, I am not thrilled with my current choices of presidential candidates. So unexcited that two months ago, my mother was lecturing me on my decision to support a Libertarian third-party candidate. A vote for the other guy and all that.<br />
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Fundamentally I disagree with how the Democrats want to run government. Being from Alabama, I'm proud of my southern heritage that is staunchly sided with state's rights (which also includes small government, low taxes & a big military -- you know, walk softly but carry an armored tank division). But I am in awe of the blatant ninny-ness of the Republicans. Really old GOP, you can't let the new guys play? You gonna take your toys and go home? Ridiculous. And a great way to split the vote so the other party wins, *hand clapping* that brilliant strategy from Colorado.<br />
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The Affordable Care Act, aka Obamacare, regardless of the good in it, and there is lots of good in it, offends me because it denies me the liberty to choose for myself. On the other hand, I watched the president makes decisions in Afghanistan that were as ballsy as any President Bush would have made. What he has done to advance the cause of Veterans is also impressive. In the last four years, when I applied for a civilian position with the US Air Force, of which I am a 10-year Veteran, I couldn't make the list -- even for jobs I once held on active duty. With the VEOA and VRA, I'm showing up on lists right and left. This has been the story with lots of folks I know -- an great effort to lessen the Veteran joblessness rate of well over 15%.<a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=879288156171748202"></a>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-13346045186968844352012-10-01T14:05:00.000-05:002012-10-09T14:27:46.102-05:00Creating a Writer's Platform<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
This week I'm thinking about writer's platforms and how to build one. You don't have to be an expert on anything other than your book to have a platform. It is simply what you care enough to write about and how to market it.<br />
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My books deal with Veterans issues wrapped in a suspenseful romance novel. First book, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Second book, Veteran homelessness. Third book, Women Veterans. So my platform handles Veterans Issues.<br />
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<b>1- GET ON <a href="http://twitter.com/hazelnutlive" target="_blank">TWITTER</a>, </b>follow other writers and readers and those in your field. But only follow those who engage. Social media is "social" and if your followers aren't commenting, following or retweeting, then they aren't going to help you get your stuff out there. The same is true for you. It's a give-give game. I really like Molly Greene's take on building Twitter <a href="http://www.molly-greene.com/0-4000-in-a-snap-how-to-build-a-quality-twitter-following-fast/" target="_blank">(click here)</a>.<br />
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<b>2- FIRE UP <a href="https://www.facebook.com/HazelnutLiveInteractive" target="_blank">FACEBOOK</a>. </b> Until you have a book out, you can use your personal account and create a Group to project all your ideas, news, and information. Again, this doesn't have to be just about your writing, it can also include whatever you are writing about. If it's spy thrillers, start loading up on quirky, interesting international news. If it's romance at a cupcake factory, help the local bakery advertise.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-6763712777497484342012-09-27T09:52:00.002-05:002012-10-09T14:28:29.854-05:00Procrastination Bug Bit Me - Now I'm Biting Back!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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When writing was a hobby I could punch out anything at anytime - poems, short stories, long stories, anthologies, whatever. But when I decided to take it on full-time, all of a sudden that stupid dung beetle (aka procrastination) writhed into my life and bit me.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-74804294956619650672012-09-24T09:30:00.000-05:002012-10-23T10:46:20.902-05:00Veterans Benefits<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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So I was researching some Veterans benefits information for a friend. Two years ago I found out that Iraq and Afghanistan war Veterans were entitled to 5 years of medical care at the VA (and the only reason I knew this was because I worked at the VA). When I went through the transition program before leaving active duty, there was NO mention of it.<a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=879288156171748202"></a>
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Here's something else too. If you think Veterans are only sacrificing their lives, think again. Their families suffer, their friends suffer and they suffer. War is not pretty. It is not glory. It is not adventure. It is ugly. And I have seen too many families ripped apart in the last eleven years. Those families and their Veterans deserve every single benefit this nation can give them.</div>
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So, Congress, when are you going to extend the deadline to register for 5 years of medical coverage for Veterans to whenever they can get an appointment at the VA or even better, to whenever they can get a person to pick up the phone at the VA to make an appointment? Because here's the other funny thing, of the 11 years worth of Veterans I know, NONE of them knew they were entitled to free medical coverage.</div>
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For more on Veteran Benefits, please see the<a href="http://www.vba.va.gov/VBA/" target="_blank"> Veteran Benefits link at the VA.</a></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-42802434461272803792012-09-20T20:32:00.000-05:002012-10-09T14:30:03.073-05:00Ever been to war?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I have. It is nothing like the movies and I've not even been in combat. </div>
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After nine years of begging and pleading, my career field finally let me go. I thought, great now I can get it out of my system.</div>
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Boy, have I never been more wrong. </div>
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I grew up on stories of my grandfather fighting in the Pacific with the 3rd Marines. His FOUR brothers were in Normandy and another brother taught pilots how to fly the hump with the Flying Tigers (two are in the US Air Force Museum and one is in Arlington). My family can trace its war history back to the Revolution and they still own the 648 acres given to them for fighting. </div>
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Those stories drove me through childhood and since I was 14 I knew I'd join the military. After an unfortunate knee injury, the only option I had was the Air Force and I happily went. Now, 11 years later and after my first "war" deployment, the only thing I can tell you about war is that it's a drug.</div>
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Yes, a drug. I figured one trip and I'd be good. Nope. One trip and all I think about is going back.</div>
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A lot of guilt goes into that feeling also since I'm a wife and mother. But I have found a writer who can articulate this better than anyone else. Antonio Salinas wrote a war memoir that dares to tell the truth -- that war is one of the most terrifying yet intoxicating experiences on the planet for so many reasons.</div>
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Read it. And you might understand why a wounded Marine wants to get back in the fight or why a Navy Seal returns year after year. Or why a mother is riddled with guilt for wanting to serve her country.</div>
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Antonio, Thank you for explaining what I can't.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-41638632978663494132012-09-17T17:32:00.000-05:002012-09-17T17:32:10.723-05:00Sangria Summit<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
A writers conference for military folks -- awesome idea!<br />
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Veterans have stories to tell and some of them are hard stories to tell but still need to be written down and shared with the masses.<br />
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Today, folks don't even think about the fact that we still have thousands of service members in Afghanistan and Africa fighting terrorists. Normally people don't think about this until one is dead. While I understand daily life must go on, it is a shame.<br />
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The difference between this war and previous wars of the 20th century is the lack of conscription. This war was fought completely with volunteers and no American was asked to support. No matter your political perspective, I believe that when the nation is at war, it should be fought by everyone or no one. <br />
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One of the most astounding things to me is the lack of knowledge of benefits. I talked with two Veterans last week, both recently returned from Afghanistan. Neither knew they were entitled to five years of medical coverage at the VA - FIVE years and one of them just lost his medical insurance. <br />
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Simple things like that can save the life of a service member who simply wanted the honor of serving his country.<br />
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So a big thank you to the organizers of the Sangria Summit last week. What an amazing way to help Veterans tell their story! <br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-87670917548174493172012-09-13T09:00:00.000-05:002012-10-09T14:30:35.003-05:00Want out of the slush pile?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-14903215767273344612012-09-10T10:44:00.001-05:002012-09-10T10:45:45.815-05:00Writers Conference Keynotes<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Jodi Thomas, 3 time RITA award winner and Romance Writer Hall of Famer, gave an absolutely inspiring and hilarious keynote this weekend.<br />
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"If you are a writer, you need to realize you are not normal."<br />
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"The longer I write, the harder it is to be around normal people. I was at a cocktail party where this woman was telling me about picking out new carpet. Before she was done, I was plotting her death."<br />
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"Writers are like drunks. First we start out doing it socially, then we're in denial, then we lock ourselves in the closet to do it. Writers conferences are like AA for us."<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-22031380236366366842012-09-06T21:58:00.000-05:002012-09-12T21:00:50.633-05:00Critique Sessions<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I'm attending the Rocky Mountain Fiction Writer's Conference in Denver tomorrow and the first session is a critique group with an editor. Each of us received a copy of the other members' first ten pages a couple of weeks ago. Feedback is critical for me to understand where the major issues are in my work, so I assume other writers feel it is critical as well. Here is the process I use to critique, hopefully you'll find it helpful.<br />
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During the second read, focus on grammar, punctuation, sentence structure, consistent verb tense and basic mechanics are distracting. This is a relatively easy thing to help fix.<br />
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In a macro sense, analyze all the scenes for organization, clarity and flow. If something doesn't make sense or requires a reread to understand it, then make a note.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-19559699151134085792012-09-03T22:21:00.000-05:002012-09-04T13:41:37.727-05:00DNC This Week & Informed Voting<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Democratic National Convention starts tomorrow. I'm not really excited about it but then I'm also not a Democrat and fundamentally disagree with them on just about everything.
However, I think that uninformed voters completely wreck the system. So to Charlotte I go and just to help make it interesting, I'll tweet it.
Should be good times listening to folks talk about giving the money of hard workers to those on welfare. But I'm not biased or anything.
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-66532309454012880942012-09-03T13:47:00.000-05:002012-09-12T21:01:22.744-05:00Revising<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Revising is excruciating but it is where the real work gets done. Stephen King says to get the story on paper. Then let it sit before revising.
Joe Lansdale says he writes a scene and then immediately edits is 6 or 7 times and it's finished.
I think the process of writing is as individual as the writer.
I'm not a plotter or a pantser but a mix of the two. I meticulously plot out the novel and change as the characters get on the paper.
Currently, I know without looking at my plot board or character sketches or outlines that I have three scenes in terrible need of work. So I should probably get to work -- I'm pushing a deadline for the conference this weekend!
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15712562094088164685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879288156171748202.post-42275039225350864022012-08-30T13:27:00.000-05:002012-09-04T13:28:14.094-05:00Republican National Convention<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
DISCLAIMER: I am a registered Republican and have voted in every presidential election since Ross Perot split the vote in 1992.
My mother chastised me when I told her I was voting for an obscure Libertarian from New Mexico as a protest against the mainstream candidates. So as a peace offering, I decided to watch the Republican National Convention.
Well, Ann Romney was a sweetie and I can see how mothers and wives would just love her.
New Jersey Gov Chris Christie totally disappointed me. I've seen him give some awesome, fiery speeches. This was not it.
John McCain's speech sounded a lot like the Bush Administration but elections are not won on foreign policy. And Condi Rice probably gave the RNC more credibility in her 10 minutes than any other speaker.
Ryan's speech was exciting and I like his iPod choices but even I knew some of it was a stretch. Romney sounded like the same ole guy he's always sounded like.
Look, the bottom line for me is that the RNC seems to think that newbies have a place and should be put in it. They don't recognize the validity of the American people exercising their right to elect someone who is not mainstream.
The catastrophe of the Republicans here in Colorado demonstrate the bigger picture. Because the GOP did not like the Tea Party backed Republican who won the state primary for the governorship, they backed their own guy. Split the vote and elected the Democrat. Any idiot who attended even a day of 8th grade civics could have called this one.
So, sorry Mom. I'm still liking my Libertarian because at least his party understands that when the American people vote, they do it for a reason. In this race, however, it is the first time any optimism I may have had about the political process in the US is in the gutter. Neither side tells the truth and the only thing they both agree on is how to get re-elected. In its current state, nothing our elected "leaders" do will change the nearly 9% unemployment or the $4T deficit or the exploded federal government. Until they learn they work for the American people, I'm voting my conscious regardless of who's elected. The whole process is disgusting.
By the way, yes, I'm watching the DNC next week. Just to compare and I'm sure I'll be blasting them by Thursday. Happy Politics!
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